Your wedding day was meant to be the one
true day where the world revolves around you - at least that what we grow up
thinking, imagining the whole Cinderella ball with our dream dress and Prince
Charming.
Unfortunately, what often happens is a bride allows too many cooks
in the kitchen and suddenly it's someone else's dream coming true and the
wedding day dream is dashed.
It's not your fault. Planning a wedding (even if you have the help
of a professional wedding planner) is a daunting task. You have to think
of yourself, your guests, your wedding party, the vendors, expenses, and a slew
of other things for your wedding day.
You need help - a bride can't do it all herself and keep her
sanity. But sometimes, others will cross the line and almost intimidate
you into doing what they want - not what you wanted for your special wedding
day.
Maybe it's a pushy wedding planner talking you out of every decision
you had planned for the last 15 years since you were a teenager. Or it
might be your own dear mum - shaking her head and frowning when you tell her
you want a trendy colorful wedding dress instead of traditional white on your
wedding day walk down the aisle.
It can take all of the pleasure out of planning your wedding day
when other people disapprove of your plans. But you have to bolster yourself
against the frenzy of opinions that will be bombarding you and learn how to do
it without getting yourself worked up.
If you wind up with a professional who isn't allowing you to express
your creative dreams, think about finding another one - or have a heart to
heart with her and let her know that you appreciate the expertise she brings to
the table, but you know what you want on your wedding day and you just need her
help carrying it out. She won't want to lose a client - so when you state
it flatly, with a smile on your face - she should step in line.
What often happens, though, is that a family member or friend
becomes the overbearing element in your wedding day planning - and you feel
awful at the thought of having to put them in their place. You worry that
feelings will get hurt or even worse - an argument will ensue - and this is
supposed to be the happiest time of your life!
Here's how to deal with overbearing family members: "Mum, can
we talk a minute? You know I respect and value your opinion more than anything
in the world. But ever since I was a kid, I've had this idea in my head
of how exciting it would be to plan my wedding day. I know you're
probably able to spot all of the errors I'm making, so I know it's frustrating
for you when I go my own direction, but I really need your support so we can
just have fun doing this without arguing over the details."
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